by Hosanna David | Jun 22, 2020 | Sexual Purity, Sexuality
Lots of emails have rolled into my inbox concerning this topic. Many people want to know the truth about what is actually right for practice and what shouldn’t be done on the Christian marriage bed. Sex is holy, therefore, unholy practices should not be practiced in a holy matrimony. In this world where many people learn the act of sex from immoral sources like pornography, premarital sexual relationships, sexual orgies, etc., it is very important to state clearly what is morally right and what is immoral. Hebrews 13:4 says “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”
Missionary Sex Position: This is face-to-face sex position with the man on top. It is called “missionary position” because missionaries of old taught their converts that missionary sex position is the only morally accepted position Christians should have sex.
Although it is not written in the Bible, in the wisdom of the missionaries of old the teaching of having sex only in missionary position was adopted. This, in a way, was to set a standard and landmark for marital sex for their converts, many of whom, were into different types of sexual practices. These new converts were from different religious and cultural backgrounds with different immoral sexual practices. There was the need to set a “standard” for the new converts and make them get rid of immoral and animalistic practices.
My View on Sex Position: Before I air my opinion I have to state very clearly that some of the early missionaries were wrongly influenced by the Roman Catholic Church false view of abstinence, purity, marriage and sex. The Roman Catholic Church is a mixture of pagan practices and modified practices of the Holy Bible. For instance, many of the teachings of St Augustine, Bishop of Hippo, are not correct. He taught that sex in marriage should be had only for the purpose of procreation,[1] encouraged married couples to refrain from sexual intercourse as a way of exercising spiritual discipline[2] and as a way to hasten Christ’s return[3], he connected the original sin to sexual intercourse[4] [5], etc. Early fathers like Tatian the Syrian (ca. 120-180)[6], Clement of Alexandria (ca. 150-215)[7] and Irenaeus of Lyons (ca. 140-202)[8] all held some wrong views of the original sin by connecting it to sexual intercourse. These are unbiblical and heretic.
Many early and a few modern teachings present marital sex as “necessary evil” that must be had for the sole purpose of procreation. The unfair repression of the gift of sex to humankind has led to confusion and “rebellion” among Christians who later find out that some of these teachings are manmade. The bad side of it is that, since many Christians feel that the Church is shying away from the truth they turned to different sources of information, of which many contain unbiblical practices that are even against nature.
Sex is holy and it should be had in a holy manner, and not to fulfill the lust or cravings of the flesh but for marital fulfillment and natural purposes. The Bible says: “Let all things be done decently and in order” (1 Co 14:40 KJV). We as God’s children should know that “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God” (1 Thess. 4:3-5 NIV).
It is very true that some modern Christians no longer attach any sense of morality to the types of activities they carry out on their matrimonial bed. This is wrong! This is partly because some of them learn the act of sex from sexual immoral acts like pornography, Karma Sutra and the like. Quickly, I need to also add that it is not right for a Christian to read or practice Karma Sutra because it is a religious sex book that contains a lot of immoral practices that are against our Christian faith.
Generally speaking, sex position is determined by various factors ranging moral sense of judgment, personal health to what couples deem suitable and enjoyable. Sex is a gift from God enjoyed in marriage only. Personally I don’t see anything wrong with couples having sex in different positions other than missionary. However, I must not fail to stress that sex is holy and it should therefore be treated as such. Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Sex should be had respectfully and not in a way that should humiliates a partner or in an animalistic manner. Positions that are animalistic, injurious and abusive should not be taken to the bed of a holy marriage. It is sinful to lose the sense of morality in course of pursuing pleasure. Also, sex positions that are practiced to release spiritual energy and are ritualistic (as taught and practiced by some religions) should be avoided.
Sex is not a dirty act that we should regard as “necessary evil” but a gift from God created not just for procreation but also for the enjoyment of humankind in a holy matrimony. Limiting sex positions to only missionary could lead to several complications. For instance, missionary sex position could be impracticable for a man with deformity, couples with ill health, fat couples with their stomach getting in the way, etc. Unfair repression of morally right sexual pleasures in marriage leads to adultery, sexual repression, guilt, quarrels in marriage, lack of intimacy, divorce, loss of faith in Christianity, search for knowledge from unchristian sources, etc.
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[1] St. Augustine, “The Good of Marriage,” in Theology and Sexuality: Classic and Contemporary Readings, ed. Eugene F. Rogers Jr. (Malden: Blackwell, 2002), 71.
[2] St. Augustine, “The Good of Marriage,”73.
[3] St. Augustine, “The Good of Marriage,” 79.
[4] Pagels, Adam, Even and the Serpent, 80.
[5] Pagels, Adam, Even and the Serpent, 109.
[6] Pagels, Adam, Even and the Serpent, 27.
[7] Pagels, Adam, Even and the Serpent, 32.
[8] Pagels, Adam, Even and the Serpent, 32
by Hosanna David | Feb 24, 2019 | Sexuality
A Soul Tie is a spiritual connection or an emotional bond that binds people together as result of having a sexual relationship or being intimate physically. Soul ties could also be created by some level of spiritual associations. There are different forms of soul ties but in this article I want to talk about sexual soul ties. Soul ties could be positive or negative. Soul tie in marriage is God’s own deliberate creation – “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall CLEAVE UNTO HIS WIFE: and they two shall be ONE FLESH.” (Genesis 2:25).
How Soul Ties Are Formed
Soul ties are created when one has a sexual relationship with someone. Sex makes two (a man and a woman) to become ONE FLESH. This is God’s own design; this is a mystery. Marital sex creates a positive soul tie while sexual immorality formed negative soul ties. Positive soul is a beautiful thing but a negative soul tie is dangerous, and it is in fact very devastating. This is why sex should not be had indiscriminately. Sex is holy and it should be had as such, lest, like fire taken from the hearth into one’s bosom (Proverbs 6:27), it destroys those who defile themselves by hooking themselves all over with ungodly soul ties. Sexual soul ties are formed the first time one has sex with a person. Both persons become one flesh:
“15 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. 16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. 17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. 18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. 19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” (1 Corinthians 6:15-20).
Soul Ties a Complex Web-Like Connections
One of the dangers of soul ties is that when you sleep with someone that is not a virgin you are automatically connected to everyone that that person has slept with and everyone that that the other persons have slept with. Negative soul ties create ungodly spiritual unions. Negative soul ties is a very complicated spiritual web-like connections that can bond you spiritually even with those you have never met in person in life. I had a revelation in which God illustrated to me what negative soul ties is. Satan knows what sex is and he is taking advantage of man’s ignorance and disobedience by using sex against humanity. If you have soul ties go for deliverance and break yourself free from those connections because they have dangerous effects both on your life and marriage.
by Hosanna David | Jan 19, 2019 | Sexuality
Many Christians have emailed me asking me if oral sex in marriage is a sin or not. I have listened to a pastor preached on a topic that addressed issues like this, and he said it is allowed in marriage. I have also heard others say oral sex is a sin. Some others quote some verses of Songs of Solomon to support their view that the Bible does not condemn oral sex. Here are some of those verses:
“O that thou wert as my brother, that sucked the breasts of my mother! when I should find thee without, I would kiss thee; yea, I should not be despised. 2 I would lead thee, and bring thee into my mother’s house, who would instruct me: I would cause thee to drink of spiced wine of the juice of my pomegranate.” (Song of Solomon 8:1-2).
“Like a lily among the thorns, so is my darling among the maidens. 3 Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste.”( Song of Solomon 2:2-3).
“You are a garden spring, a well of fresh water, streams flowing from Lebanon. Awake, north wind, and come, south wind. 16 Make my garden breathe out, let its fragrance flow. Let my beloved come into his garden, and let him eat its choicest fruits.” (Song of Solomon 4:15-16).
The above Bible verses do not directly address this issue but some Christians use them to support their views concerning oral sex.
Since the Bible did not address this topic directly, there’s need to be careful before drawing conclusions.
Personally, I believe that God did not create sex for reproduction alone but also for pleasure. God purposely created sex to be pleasurable for the satisfaction of humans, but in marriage only. Concerning sexual satisfaction the Bible also says:
“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.” (1 Cor. 7:3-5).
The question is: Is there no limit to sexual pleasure?
For many years I longed to hear from God concerning this topic but I did not until May 8, 2022. The Lord told me oral sex is sin. He told me that oral sex promotes sexual immorality.
We should understand that though God created pleasure, it is also God’s will that His children moderate the amount of pleasure they receive. If no limit is set, it is likened to gluttony. Sexual stimulations should not be allowed to enslave the flesh. This, some have allowed and became addicted to pleasure. Sex is very addictive, therefore such an activity that produces high stimulation should be avoided. It is wrong for Christians not to moderate the pleasure of sex they receive or give.
Finally, I want you to meditate on these words of Apostle Paul:
“All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, BUT I WILL NOT BE BROUGHT UNDER THE POWER OF ANY.” (1 Cor. 6:12).
by Hosanna David | Dec 4, 2018 | Sexuality
Only a few people keep their virginity till their wedding night. Many people believe that not getting to know someone in bed before tying the knot is a very big mistake. Though the Holy Bible teaches total abstinence before marriage, many Christians do not see it that way.
Here is the street interview organised by BS Purity TV. Hear the different views of people about pre-marital sex.
by Hosanna David | Nov 13, 2018 | Sexuality
Is sex in itself a dirty act? Sex is one of the most wrongly defined things in the world today. This is because many people don’t really know what sex is. Many people don’t like to address any topic that concerns sex because they feel sex is a “dirty thing” that shouldn’t be discussed. Is this right?
God, through His grace, has made me a very strong voice in the Church against sexual immorality. As a result I address sexual issues a lot. One of the challenges I have is that many people see me as a “sinner” for addressing such a topic.
Is sex really “dirty”?
God is a Holy God. The man God created in His own image and likeness, in whom God put His very life (breath) during creation, is also a holy man. It is for the same man God created sex. Through sex man participates in God’s work of creation by “creating” holy human beings who look exactly like the first man God created out of dust, who was like God Himself.
The simple answer to the question is: sex is holy. The Bible says this concerning sex:
”Marriage is honourable in all, and the BED UNDEFILED: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13:4).
“Undefiled” here means holy. “Bed” (“or marriage bed”, as some translations put it) here represents “marital sex”. This simply means that God created marital sex (marriage bed) for the a man and a woman that are lawfully married. As a result, the “bed” must be kept “undefiled”, holy, without spots, because the act itself is holy, “undefiled.”
God is a holy God and He cannot give an unholy activity to a holy man which He created in His own image and likeness (Gen. 1:26-28), in whom the spirit of God dwells comfortably – God’s holy temple (2Cor. 6:16), with which and upon which we offer living, holy and acceptable sacrifices to God (Romans 12:1).
The Spirit of God lives in our bodies constantly and we are never told by God that His Spirit leaves the bodies of His children whenever they are sleeping with their husbands or wives. What makes sex dirty is when it is had in an unholy manner. Sex is a holy gift from God. But when people abuse sex it becomes unholy, which leads to defilement of both their bodies, spirits and souls. Sex does not drive away the Spirit of God from man but sexual immorality does. Sexual immorality like fornication, adultery, bestiality, homosexuality, etc. drives away the Spirit of God within a twinkle of an eye.
Here is what the Bible says concerning this:
“Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you? If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are” (1 Cor. 3:16-17 KJV).
People see sex as an unholy and dirty act because majority of humans on earth abuse sex, before and in marriage. This makes them have wrong views about sex, and as a result they are laden with guilt in their hearts perpetually. This is one of the reasons we must keep to the standard the Bible dictates to us, which is SEXUAL PURITY.
Watch this street interview on premarital sex:
by Hosanna David | Nov 13, 2018 | Sexuality
The Bible is very much clear in addressing the sin of sodomy, which, I believe, no Spirit-led Bible-believing Christian will argue against; but the issue now is: is anal sex sin if it is had in marriage between a husband (man) and his wife (woman)?
Let’s first define what anal sex is. Anal sex is a man putting his penis into the anus. It is taking anus for vagina. This is sodomy! It is sin! This is not natural, and it is not biblical sex. Biblical sex is holy but anal sex is immoral.
God created anus for excreting waste, not for sex. This is sexual immorality. The Bible condemns this.
“If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.” (Leviticus 20:13).
“You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination.”( Leviticus 18:22).
“For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person — such a man is an idolater — has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.” (Eph. 5:5).
From the above Bible verses it is very clear that God hates sodomy (anal sex).
The simple truth is this: God created vagina for sex while anus is created for faeces. Know that
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” (Heb. 13:4).
Honour your marriage and keep it pure from all forms of sexual immorality.
Also know that sexually immoral activities give demons access into one’s life. We must know that sexual immorality is one of the greatest weapons Satan is using against humanity today.
