Cross dressing simply put, is wearing the apparels and garments that belongs to the opposite sex/gender.
Cross dressing in most ‘advanced’ nations of the world has become a norm in the society, but what does God and the bible say about this act, is it right or wrong for Christians to cross dress?
The bible in Deuteronomy 22:5 gives a clear understanding of the topic of cross dressing and transvestism [women dressing in men attires and vise versa].
From this passage, God instructs and command that a woman should not put on that which pertains to a man, and a man is not to put on that which pertains to a woman as well, because anyone who does this is an abomination unto God.
The message in this passage is not intended to forbid women from wearing pants of trousers, or to forbid men from wearing skirts/kilts [the Scottish traditional men].
It is solely focused on the fact that anyone who cross dresses, is trying to appear as something or someone else, that he or she isn’t, and this could be used as a means of deception.
The true definition of cross dressing from this passage, is changing one’s apparel and appearance to look like the opposite sex, and this is not acceptable to God because it discards the natural use of things, and takes on that which to God is unnatural [ Romans 1:24-27].
Apostle Paul in his first letter to the Corinthians in 1 Corinthians 11:3-15 tells the Corinthian church that the way and manner in which a woman adorns herself, and wears her hair is a reflection of God, likewise also a man.
Therefore, any woman who cuts or shaves her hair just because she wants to appear like a man, and a man who grows out his hair just because he wants to be seen like a woman is bringing shame to the body of Christ.
This doesn’t mean that any woman who shaves or cuts her hair, or any man who grows out his hair is a sinner, it is acceptable to keep one’s hair in whatever form or style that is most suitable to one.
It only becomes a sin when the motive and attitude of one’s heart for doing such thing is to appear as someone else, and like we know, that is deception, and deception in itself is a sin.
Christians should take note that different customs and traditions calls for different gender related clothing, for example it is customary that a traditional Scottish man wears a kilt[skirt].
Therefore, in such situations a man wearing a skirt is not crossdressing.No matter the custom and tradition of any society, Christians should only wear what is gender appropriate in that custom and make sure to dress decently, and above all bring glory to God.
Lots of emails have rolled into my inbox concerning this topic. Many people want to know the truth about what is actually right for practice and what shouldn’t be done on the Christian marriage bed. Sex is holy, therefore, unholy practices should not be practiced in a holy matrimony. In this world where many people learn the act of sex from immoral sources like pornography, premarital sexual relationships, sexual orgies, etc., it is very important to state clearly what is morally right and what is immoral. Hebrews 13:4 says “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”
Missionary Sex Position: This is face-to-face sex position with the man on top. It is called “missionary position” because missionaries of old taught their converts that missionary sex position is the only morally accepted position Christians should have sex.
Although it is not written in the Bible, in the wisdom of the missionaries of old the teaching of having sex only in missionary position was adopted. This, in a way, was to set a standard and landmark for marital sex for their converts, many of whom, were into different types of sexual practices. These new converts were from different religious and cultural backgrounds with different immoral sexual practices. There was the need to set a “standard” for the new converts and make them get rid of immoral and animalistic practices.
My View on Sex Position: Before I air my opinion I have to state very clearly that some of the early missionaries were wrongly influenced by the Roman Catholic Church false view of abstinence, purity, marriage and sex. The Roman Catholic Church is a mixture of pagan practices and modified practices of the Holy Bible. For instance, many of the teachings of St Augustine, Bishop of Hippo, are not correct. He taught that sex in marriage should be had only for the purpose of procreation, encouraged married couples to refrain from sexual intercourse as a way of exercising spiritual discipline and as a way to hasten Christ’s return, he connected the original sin to sexual intercourse , etc. Early fathers like Tatian the Syrian (ca. 120-180), Clement of Alexandria (ca. 150-215) and Irenaeus of Lyons (ca. 140-202) all held some wrong views of the original sin by connecting it to sexual intercourse. These are unbiblical and heretic.
Many early and a few modern teachings present marital sex as “necessary evil” that must be had for the sole purpose of procreation. The unfair repression of the gift of sex to humankind has led to confusion and “rebellion” among Christians who later find out that some of these teachings are manmade. The bad side of it is that, since many Christians feel that the Church is shying away from the truth they turned to different sources of information, of which many contain unbiblical practices that are even against nature.
Sex is holy and it should be had in a holy manner, and not to fulfill the lust or cravings of the flesh but for marital fulfillment and natural purposes. The Bible says: “Let all things be done decently and in order” (1 Co 14:40 KJV). We as God’s children should know that “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God” (1 Thess. 4:3-5 NIV).
It is very true that some modern Christians no longer attach any sense of morality to the types of activities they carry out on their matrimonial bed. This is wrong! This is partly because some of them learn the act of sex from sexual immoral acts like pornography, Karma Sutra and the like. Quickly, I need to also add that it is not right for a Christian to read or practice Karma Sutra because it is a religious sex book that contains a lot of immoral practices that are against our Christian faith.
Generally speaking, sex position is determined by various factors ranging moral sense of judgment, personal health to what couples deem suitable and enjoyable. Sex is a gift from God enjoyed in marriage only. Personally I don’t see anything wrong with couples having sex in different positions other than missionary. However, I must not fail to stress that sex is holy and it should therefore be treated as such. Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Sex should be had respectfully and not in a way that should humiliates a partner or in an animalistic manner. Positions that are animalistic, injurious and abusive should not be taken to the bed of a holy marriage. It is sinful to lose the sense of morality in course of pursuing pleasure. Also, sex positions that are practiced to release spiritual energy and are ritualistic (as taught and practiced by some religions) should be avoided.
Sex is not a dirty act that we should regard as “necessary evil” but a gift from God created not just for procreation but also for the enjoyment of humankind in a holy matrimony. Limiting sex positions to only missionary could lead to several complications. For instance, missionary sex position could be impracticable for a man with deformity, couples with ill health, fat couples with their stomach getting in the way, etc. Unfair repression of morally right sexual pleasures in marriage leads to adultery, sexual repression, guilt, quarrels in marriage, lack of intimacy, divorce, loss of faith in Christianity, search for knowledge from unchristian sources, etc.
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The Bible makes it very clear that God hates adultery. Exodus 20:14 says, “Thou shalt not commit adultery.” According to the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy‘s current infidelity statistics
- 57% of men overall admit to committing infidelity at some point in their lives
- 54% of women overall admit to committing infidelity in one or more of their relationships
- 22% of married men admit to having an affair at least once during their marriages
- 14% of married women admit to having an affair at least once during their marriages
Unfortunately for the cheaters who believe that it is impossible to be faithful in marriage, during the lockdown many do not have the opportunity to cheat. So, finally, those who cheat are forcefully kept indoors too and away from cheating? But didn’t they say that it is not good for a man (including some women) to eat only one type of food? But now that they are not eating their “varieties and mixtures” as usual, how many of them have died because of this forced faithfulness?
So, finally, cheaters are locked indoors too, and they are now eating only one type of food? Where are those who travel up and down in the name of attending business meetings that never exist, just because they want to cheat? Is it not clear to you now that your wife/husband is enough for you?
It’s time to learn from this lockdown that has kept cheaters indoors in order to better your marriage life. This is a call on all unfaithful partners to repent. Please watch the video above.