Many Christians have emailed me asking me if oral sex in marriage is a sin or not. I have listened to a pastor preached on a topic that addressed issues like this, and he said it is allowed in marriage. I have also heard others say oral sex is a sin. Some others quote some verses of Songs of Solomon to support their view that the Bible does not condemn oral sex. Here are some of those verses:
“O that thou wert as my brother, that sucked the breasts of my mother! when I should find thee without, I would kiss thee; yea, I should not be despised. 2 I would lead thee, and bring thee into my mother’s house, who would instruct me: I would cause thee to drink of spiced wine of the juice of my pomegranate.” (Song of Solomon 8:1-2).
“Like a lily among the thorns, so is my darling among the maidens. 3 Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste.”( Song of Solomon 2:2-3).
“You are a garden spring, a well of fresh water, streams flowing from Lebanon. Awake, north wind, and come, south wind. 16 Make my garden breathe out, let its fragrance flow. Let my beloved come into his garden, and let him eat its choicest fruits.” (Song of Solomon 4:15-16).
The above Bible verses do not directly address this issue but some Christians use them to support their views concerning oral sex.
Since the Bible did not address this topic directly, there’s need to be careful before drawing conclusions.
Personally, I believe that God did not create sex for reproduction alone but also for pleasure. God purposely created sex to be pleasurable for the satisfaction of humans, but in marriage only. Concerning sexual satisfaction the Bible also says:
“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.” (1 Cor. 7:3-5).
The question is: Is there no limit to sexual pleasure?
For many years I longed to hear from God concerning this topic but I did not until May 8, 2022. The Lord told me oral sex is sin. He told me that oral sex promotes sexual immorality.
We should understand that though God created pleasure, it is also God’s will that His children moderate the amount of pleasure they receive. If no limit is set, it is likened to gluttony. Sexual stimulations should not be allowed to enslave the flesh. This, some have allowed and became addicted to pleasure. Sex is very addictive, therefore such an activity that produces high stimulation should be avoided. It is wrong for Christians not to moderate the pleasure of sex they receive or give.
Finally, I want you to meditate on these words of Apostle Paul:
“All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, BUT I WILL NOT BE BROUGHT UNDER THE POWER OF ANY.” (1 Cor. 6:12).
Only a few people keep their virginity till their wedding night. Many people believe that not getting to know someone in bed before tying the knot is a very big mistake. Though the Holy Bible teaches total abstinence before marriage, many Christians do not see it that way.
Here is the street interview organised by BS Purity TV. Hear the different views of people about pre-marital sex.
Is sex in itself a dirty act? Sex is one of the most wrongly defined things in the world today. This is because many people don’t really know what sex is. Many people don’t like to address any topic that concerns sex because they feel sex is a “dirty thing” that shouldn’t be discussed. Is this right?
God, through His grace, has made me a very strong voice in the Church against sexual immorality. As a result I address sexual issues a lot. One of the challenges I have is that many people see me as a “sinner” for addressing such a topic.
Is sex really “dirty”?
God is a Holy God. The man God created in His own image and likeness, in whom God put His very life (breath) during creation, is also a holy man. It is for the same man God created sex. Through sex man participates in God’s work of creation by “creating” holy human beings who look exactly like the first man God created out of dust, who was like God Himself.
The simple answer to the question is: sex is holy. The Bible says this concerning sex:
”Marriage is honourable in all, and the BED UNDEFILED: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13:4).
“Undefiled” here means holy. “Bed” (“or marriage bed”, as some translations put it) here represents “marital sex”. This simply means that God created marital sex (marriage bed) for the a man and a woman that are lawfully married. As a result, the “bed” must be kept “undefiled”, holy, without spots, because the act itself is holy, “undefiled.”
God is a holy God and He cannot give an unholy activity to a holy man which He created in His own image and likeness (Gen. 1:26-28), in whom the spirit of God dwells comfortably – God’s holy temple (2Cor. 6:16), with which and upon which we offer living, holy and acceptable sacrifices to God (Romans 12:1).
The Spirit of God lives in our bodies constantly and we are never told by God that His Spirit leaves the bodies of His children whenever they are sleeping with their husbands or wives. What makes sex dirty is when it is had in an unholy manner. Sex is a holy gift from God. But when people abuse sex it becomes unholy, which leads to defilement of both their bodies, spirits and souls. Sex does not drive away the Spirit of God from man but sexual immorality does. Sexual immorality like fornication, adultery, bestiality, homosexuality, etc. drives away the Spirit of God within a twinkle of an eye.
Here is what the Bible says concerning this:
“Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you? If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are” (1 Cor. 3:16-17 KJV).
People see sex as an unholy and dirty act because majority of humans on earth abuse sex, before and in marriage. This makes them have wrong views about sex, and as a result they are laden with guilt in their hearts perpetually. This is one of the reasons we must keep to the standard the Bible dictates to us, which is SEXUAL PURITY.
The Bible is very much clear in addressing the sin of sodomy, which, I believe, no Spirit-led Bible-believing Christian will argue against; but the issue now is: is anal sex sin if it is had in marriage between a husband (man) and his wife (woman)?
Let’s first define what anal sex is. Anal sex is a man putting his penis into the anus. It is taking anus for vagina. This is sodomy! It is sin! This is not natural, and it is not biblical sex. Biblical sex is holy but anal sex is immoral.
God created anus for excreting waste, not for sex. This is sexual immorality. The Bible condemns this.
“If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.” (Leviticus 20:13).
“You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination.”( Leviticus 18:22).
“For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person — such a man is an idolater — has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.” (Eph. 5:5).
From the above Bible verses it is very clear that God hates sodomy (anal sex).
The simple truth is this: God created vagina for sex while anus is created for faeces. Know that
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” (Heb. 13:4).
Honour your marriage and keep it pure from all forms of sexual immorality.
How many parents will feel comfortable to hear their child ask them: “Mummy/Daddy, what is sex?” I tell you, many parents will become embarrassed (and probably confused) to the extent that some may not have any answer to give, or even divert the attention of the child by raising another topic. Trust parents; some may even shout and ask the child to keep quiet.
We know that the world we live in today sees the definition of sex as a personal thing. This is totally wrong! Sex was created by God therefore it has a definite definition, which is after to its original design and purpose, as ordained by God the Creator and Giver in the beginning.
Human sexuality is a very complicated and controversial topic today. But the fact is: modern civilization and the prevalent sexualization of man has nothing to do with the Truth that has been revealed in the Holy Bible.
What is Sex?
Let’s first of all explore some definitions. The word “sex” encompasses many different types of sexual activities. The Oxford Advance Learner’s Dictionary defines sex as “physical activity between two people in which they touch each other’s sexual organs, and which may include sexual intercourse”.
Sex is also said to be “the act of sexual procreation between a man and a woman; …any act of touching intimately with stimulation giving excitement to a partner, male or female” (wikianswers.com).
Personally, I see sex as “a divinely ordained emotional physical activity of bodily union between a husband and his wife for the purpose of procreation and mutual pleasure, through which they become one flesh. We can also say that sex is any activity between a man and a woman that causes full sexual arousal and gives sexual satisfaction, which may or may not include sexual intercourse.”
There are many sexual activities that many of our youths do no consider as “SEX”. Many have been deceived to walk in sexual immorality because of their corrupt view of sex.
There are various ways Satan uses sex against humanity today. Therefore what sex is should be clearly defined. Many are in different demonic bondage because of their disobedience and ignorance about what sex is and how it should be had and how it should not be engaged in. The video below will tell you much about this.
Your own views and comments would be highly appreciated. Thanks for reading.
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