Is sex in itself a dirty act? Sex is one of the most wrongly defined things in the world today. This is because many people don’t really know what sex is. Many people don’t like to address any topic that concerns sex because they feel sex is a “dirty thing” that shouldn’t be discussed. Is this right?
God, through His grace, has made me a very strong voice in the Church against sexual immorality. As a result I address sexual issues a lot. One of the challenges I have is that many people see me as a “sinner” for addressing such a topic.
Is sex really “dirty”?
God is a Holy God. The man God created in His own image and likeness, in whom God put His very life (breath) during creation, is also a holy man. It is for the same man God created sex. Through sex man participates in God’s work of creation by “creating” holy human beings who look exactly like the first man God created out of dust, who was like God Himself.
The simple answer to the question is: sex is holy. The Bible says this concerning sex:
”Marriage is honourable in all, and the BED UNDEFILED: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13:4).
“Undefiled” here means holy. “Bed” (“or marriage bed”, as some translations put it) here represents “marital sex”. This simply means that God created marital sex (marriage bed) for the a man and a woman that are lawfully married. As a result, the “bed” must be kept “undefiled”, holy, without spots, because the act itself is holy, “undefiled.”
God is a holy God and He cannot give an unholy activity to a holy man which He created in His own image and likeness (Gen. 1:26-28), in whom the spirit of God dwells comfortably – God’s holy temple (2Cor. 6:16), with which and upon which we offer living, holy and acceptable sacrifices to God (Romans 12:1).
The Spirit of God lives in our bodies constantly and we are never told by God that His Spirit leaves the bodies of His children whenever they are sleeping with their husbands or wives. What makes sex dirty is when it is had in an unholy manner. Sex is a holy gift from God. But when people abuse sex it becomes unholy, which leads to defilement of both their bodies, spirits and souls. Sex does not drive away the Spirit of God from man but sexual immorality does. Sexual immorality like fornication, adultery, bestiality, homosexuality, etc. drives away the Spirit of God within a twinkle of an eye.
Here is what the Bible says concerning this:
“Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you? If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are” (1 Cor. 3:16-17 KJV).
People see sex as an unholy and dirty act because majority of humans on earth abuse sex, before and in marriage. This makes them have wrong views about sex, and as a result they are laden with guilt in their hearts perpetually. This is one of the reasons we must keep to the standard the Bible dictates to us, which is SEXUAL PURITY.
How many parents will feel comfortable to hear their child ask them: “Mummy/Daddy, what is sex?” I tell you, many parents will become embarrassed (and probably confused) to the extent that some may not have any answer to give, or even divert the attention of the child by raising another topic. Trust parents; some may even shout and ask the child to keep quiet.
We know that the world we live in today sees the definition of sex as a personal thing. This is totally wrong! Sex was created by God therefore it has a definite definition, which is after to its original design and purpose, as ordained by God the Creator and Giver in the beginning.
Human sexuality is a very complicated and controversial topic today. But the fact is: modern civilization and the prevalent sexualization of man has nothing to do with the Truth that has been revealed in the Holy Bible.
What is Sex?
Let’s first of all explore some definitions. The word “sex” encompasses many different types of sexual activities. The Oxford Advance Learner’s Dictionary defines sex as “physical activity between two people in which they touch each other’s sexual organs, and which may include sexual intercourse”.
Sex is also said to be “the act of sexual procreation between a man and a woman; …any act of touching intimately with stimulation giving excitement to a partner, male or female” (wikianswers.com).
Personally, I see sex as “a divinely ordained emotional physical activity of bodily union between a husband and his wife for the purpose of procreation and mutual pleasure, through which they become one flesh. We can also say that sex is any activity between a man and a woman that causes full sexual arousal and gives sexual satisfaction, which may or may not include sexual intercourse.”
There are many sexual activities that many of our youths do no consider as “SEX”. Many have been deceived to walk in sexual immorality because of their corrupt view of sex.
There are various ways Satan uses sex against humanity today. Therefore what sex is should be clearly defined. Many are in different demonic bondage because of their disobedience and ignorance about what sex is and how it should be had and how it should not be engaged in. The video below will tell you much about this.
Your own views and comments would be highly appreciated. Thanks for reading.
SEXUALITY according to Merriam Webster Dictionary refers to sexual habits and desires of a person. Sexuality is seen as the quality or state of being sexual.
It can also be defined as the expression of sexual receptivity or interest or the whole way one expresses himself or herself as a sexual being.
HUMAN SEXUALITY is defined as the capacity of humans to have erotic experiences and responses.
From the above definitions we can see clearly that the issue of sexuality involves all humans. It is a major aspect of humanity. This is why God does address this topic with all seriousness right from the very day man was created (Genesis 2:20-25).
GODLY SEXUALITY, in my own view, means the capacity of a person to express himself or herself as a sexual being in a God-fearing and virtuous way which is in accordance with the natural purpose and use of sex. Godly sexuality is all about humans, out of deep reverence and love for God, resolutely choose to express their natural sexual desires only within biblical and natural boundaries; seeing sex as a holy gift from God and therefore not defiling it neither allowing oneself to be defiled by it.
Just as God did create anything without guiding it by laws so also God did not create sex for man without surrounding the act with Holy Laws. We as humans cannot deny our sexuality but many have always deny something – the Laws of God that upholds sex as a holy act. This is because man, from the very beginning has been in the unfruitful business of abusing the good things that God has created for man’s own use and pleasure.
Today, debates on human sexuality has thrown majority of humanity into confusion. As a result of this confusion, INIQUITY abound at an ever increasing measure. Shamefully, abominable practices like homosexuality, lesbianism, bestiality, rape, transgenderism, transsexuality, pedophilia, necrophilia and other stunning abominations are becoming more and more widespread and acceptable in our world’s practical system today.
If we must get things right we have to go back to God from Whom all created came. There is no better way to do so than stand on our feet and address this rot. This is my mission at this critical time that we are in. We shouldn’t forget the command of God about human sexuality:
“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed UNDEFILED: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4).