A Soul Tie is a spiritual connection or an emotional bond that binds people together as result of having a sexual relationship or being intimate physically. Soul ties could also be created by some level of spiritual associations. There are different forms of soul ties but in this article I want to talk about sexual soul ties. Soul ties could be positive or negative. Soul tie in marriage is God’s own deliberate creation – “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall CLEAVE UNTO HIS WIFE: and they two shall be ONE FLESH.” (Genesis 2:25).
How Soul Ties Are Formed
Soul ties are created when one has a sexual relationship with someone. Sex makes two (a man and a woman) to become ONE FLESH. This is God’s own design; this is a mystery. Marital sex creates a positive soul tie while sexual immorality formed negative soul ties. Positive soul is a beautiful thing but a negative soul tie is dangerous, and it is in fact very devastating. This is why sex should not be had indiscriminately. Sex is holy and it should be had as such, lest, like fire taken from the hearth into one’s bosom (Proverbs 6:27), it destroys those who defile themselves by hooking themselves all over with ungodly soul ties. Sexual soul ties are formed the first time one has sex with a person. Both persons become one flesh:
“15 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. 16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. 17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. 18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. 19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” (1 Corinthians 6:15-20).
Soul Ties a Complex Web-Like Connections
One of the dangers of soul ties is that when you sleep with someone that is not a virgin you are automatically connected to everyone that that person has slept with and everyone that that the other persons have slept with. Negative soul ties create ungodly spiritual unions. Negative soul ties is a very complicated spiritual web-like connections that can bond you spiritually even with those you have never met in person in life. I had a revelation in which God illustrated to me what negative soul ties is. Satan knows what sex is and he is taking advantage of man’s ignorance and disobedience by using sex against humanity. If you have soul ties go for deliverance and break yourself free from those connections because they have dangerous effects both on your life and marriage.
Many Christians have emailed me asking me if oral sex in marriage is a sin or not. I have listened to a pastor preached on a topic that addressed issues like this, and he said it is allowed in marriage. I have also heard others say oral sex is a sin. Some others quote some verses of Songs of Solomon to support their view that the Bible does not condemn oral sex. Here are some of those verses:
“O that thou wert as my brother, that sucked the breasts of my mother! when I should find thee without, I would kiss thee; yea, I should not be despised. 2 I would lead thee, and bring thee into my mother’s house, who would instruct me: I would cause thee to drink of spiced wine of the juice of my pomegranate.” (Song of Solomon 8:1-2).
“Like a lily among the thorns, so is my darling among the maidens. 3 Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste.”( Song of Solomon 2:2-3).
“You are a garden spring, a well of fresh water, streams flowing from Lebanon. Awake, north wind, and come, south wind. 16 Make my garden breathe out, let its fragrance flow. Let my beloved come into his garden, and let him eat its choicest fruits.” (Song of Solomon 4:15-16).
The above Bible verses do not directly address this issue but some Christians use them to support their views concerning oral sex.
Since the Bible did not address this topic directly, there’s need to be careful before drawing conclusions.
Personally, I believe that God did not create sex for reproduction alone but also for pleasure. God purposely created sex to be pleasurable for the satisfaction of humans, but in marriage only. Concerning sexual satisfaction the Bible also says:
“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.” (1 Cor. 7:3-5).
The question is: Is there no limit to sexual pleasure?
The Lord did not tell me that oral sex in marriage is a sin though I have longed to hear from God concerning this topic. As a result I can only speak from my personal Christian and moral view. Personally, I don’t think Christians should have oral sex. We should understand that though God created pleasure, it is also God’s will that His children moderate the amount of pleasure they receive. If no limit is set, it is likened to gluttony. Sexual stimulations should not be allowed to enslave the flesh. This, some have allowed and became addicted to pleasure. Sex is very addictive, therefore I think such an activity that produces high stimulation should be avoided. I don’t think it is right for Christians not to moderate the pleasure of sex they receive or give.
Finally, I advise that you pray about this and seek the will of the LORD even as I leave you with these words of Apostle Paul to meditate upon:
“All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, BUT I WILL NOT BE BROUGHT UNDER THE POWER OF ANY.” (1 Cor. 6:12).