Should Christian Couples Have Sex Only in Missionary Position?

Should Christian Couples Have Sex Only in Missionary Position?

Lots of emails have rolled into my inbox concerning this topic. Many people want to know the truth about what is actually right for practice and what shouldn’t be done on the Christian marriage bed. Sex is holy, therefore, unholy practices should not be practiced in a holy matrimony. In this world where many people learn the act of sex from immoral sources like pornography, premarital sexual relationships, sexual orgies, etc., it is very important to state clearly what is morally right and what is immoral. Hebrews 13:4 says “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”

Missionary Sex Position:  This is face-to-face sex position with the man on top. It is called “missionary position” because missionaries of old taught their converts that missionary sex position is the only morally accepted position Christians should have sex.

Although it is not written in the Bible, in the wisdom of the missionaries of old the teaching of having sex only in missionary position was adopted. This, in a way, was to set a standard and landmark for marital sex for their converts, many of whom, were into different types of sexual practices. These new converts were from different religious and cultural backgrounds with different immoral sexual practices. There was the need to set a “standard” for the new converts and make them get rid of immoral and animalistic practices.

My View on Sex Position: Before I air my opinion I have to state very clearly that some of the early missionaries were wrongly influenced by the Roman Catholic Church false view of abstinence, purity, marriage and sex. The Roman Catholic Church is a mixture of pagan practices and modified practices of the Holy Bible. For instance, many of the teachings of St Augustine, Bishop of Hippo, are not correct. He taught that sex in marriage should be had only for the purpose of procreation,[1] encouraged married couples to refrain from sexual intercourse as a way of exercising spiritual discipline[2] and as a way to hasten Christ’s return[3], he connected the original sin to sexual intercourse[4] [5], etc. Early fathers like Tatian the Syrian (ca. 120-180)[6], Clement of Alexandria (ca. 150-215)[7] and Irenaeus of Lyons (ca. 140-202)[8] all held some wrong views of the original sin by connecting it to sexual intercourse. These are unbiblical and heretic.

Many early and a few modern teachings present marital sex as “necessary evil” that must be had for the sole purpose of procreation. The unfair repression of the gift of sex to humankind has led to confusion and “rebellion” among Christians who later find out that some of these teachings are manmade. The bad side of it is that, since many Christians feel that the Church is shying away from the truth they turned to different sources of information, of which many contain unbiblical practices that are even against nature.

Sex is holy and it should be had in a holy manner, and not to fulfill the lust or cravings of the flesh but for marital fulfillment and natural purposes. The Bible says: “Let all things be done decently and in order” (1 Co 14:40 KJV). We as God’s children should know that “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God” (1 Thess. 4:3-5 NIV).

It is very true that some modern Christians no longer attach any sense of morality to the types of activities they carry out on their matrimonial bed. This is wrong! This is partly because some of them learn the act of sex from sexual immoral acts like pornography, Karma Sutra and the like. Quickly, I need to also add that it is not right for a Christian to read or practice Karma Sutra because it is a religious sex book that contains a lot of immoral practices that are against our Christian faith.

Generally speaking, sex position is determined by various factors ranging moral sense of judgment, personal health to what couples deem suitable and enjoyable. Sex is a gift from God enjoyed in marriage only. Personally I don’t see anything wrong with couples having sex in different positions other than missionary. However, I must not fail to stress that sex is holy and it should therefore be treated as such. Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Sex should be had respectfully and not in a way that should humiliates a partner or in an animalistic manner. Positions that are animalistic, injurious and abusive should not be taken to the bed of a holy marriage. It is sinful to lose the sense of morality in course of pursuing pleasure. Also, sex positions that are practiced to release spiritual energy and are ritualistic (as taught and practiced by some religions) should be avoided.

Sex is not a dirty act that we should regard as “necessary evil” but a gift from God created not just for procreation but also for the enjoyment of humankind in a holy matrimony. Limiting sex positions to only missionary could lead to several complications. For instance, missionary sex position could be impracticable for a man with deformity, couples with ill health, fat couples with their stomach getting in the way, etc. Unfair repression of morally right sexual pleasures in marriage leads to adultery, sexual repression, guilt, quarrels in marriage, lack of intimacy, divorce, loss of faith in Christianity, search for knowledge from unchristian sources, etc.

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[1] St. Augustine, “The Good of Marriage,” in Theology and Sexuality: Classic and Contemporary Readings, ed. Eugene F. Rogers Jr. (Malden: Blackwell, 2002), 71.

[2] St. Augustine, “The Good of Marriage,”73.

[3] St. Augustine, “The Good of Marriage,” 79.

[4] Pagels, Adam, Even and the Serpent, 80.

[5] Pagels, Adam, Even and the Serpent, 109.

[6] Pagels, Adam, Even and the Serpent, 27.

[7] Pagels, Adam, Even and the Serpent, 32.

[8] Pagels, Adam, Even and the Serpent, 32

Lockdown, No Cheating: Cheaters Eating Only “One Type of Food” for Weeks Now But None is Dying

Lockdown, No Cheating: Cheaters Eating Only “One Type of Food” for Weeks Now But None is Dying

The Bible makes it very clear that God hates adultery. Exodus 20:14 says, “Thou shalt not commit adultery.” According to the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy‘s current infidelity statistics

  • 57% of men overall admit to committing infidelity at some point in their lives
  • 54% of women overall admit to committing infidelity in one or more of their relationships
  • 22% of married men admit to having an affair at least once during their marriages
  • 14% of married women admit to having an affair at least once during their marriages

Unfortunately for the cheaters who believe that it is impossible to be faithful in marriage, during the lockdown many do not have the opportunity to cheat. So, finally, those who cheat are forcefully kept indoors too and away from cheating? But didn’t they say that it is not good for a man (including some women) to eat only one type of food? But now that they are not eating their “varieties and mixtures” as usual, how many of them have died because of this forced faithfulness?
So, finally, cheaters are locked indoors too, and they are now eating only one type of food? Where are those who travel up and down in the name of attending business meetings that never exist, just because they want to cheat? Is it not clear to you now that your wife/husband is enough for you?

It’s time to learn from this lockdown that has kept cheaters indoors in order to better your marriage life. This is a call on all unfaithful partners to repent. Please watch the video above.

Image: Getty

Warning Message from God about Alarming Increase of Pedophilia in the Near Future

Warning Message from God about Alarming Increase of Pedophilia in the Near Future

I got a very disturbing vision on the 17th of July 2019. The Lord revealed to me an aspect of the godlessness and rebellion of men against God and His laws, which shall soon come to pass. It is about the disturbing increase in pedophilia, which will undermine the rights of children. Pedophilia is an abominable sexual perversion in which children are the preferred sex objects. The world is already struggling with this menace of adults having sexually abusive relationships with children. In fact, child sex dolls are already being produced illegally and sold to people who can’t curtailed their lust. This is very sad and disturbing.

Watch this video for more explanation

In a vision, the Spirit of the Lord spoke to me and said, “The time that men shall live in deep ungodliness is coming; the time when those with white hairs (grey hairs) shall lust after those who have no hairs, to sleep with them.”

Then I saw in a vision a very high wave that overflowed it’s bank and entered a city. Then the voice of the Lord explained to me saying, “The wave you saw which entered the city represents the demons that shall invade the earth and they shall possess many people. Men shall not achieve this height of wickedness by their own strength alone but by the influence of these demons from the sea.”

Again, on the 26th of July 2019, the Lord spoke to me saying, “The mouth of my children shall be sealed so that they will not speak against these things, but let those who love Me speak and confront these evils. The time is near when men shall deprive their daughters of getting married because of the greed and lust of having their own children (as wives). But cursed be everyone who removes the ancient landmark to establish his own. Man is five feet away from death, death is the end of all pride and rebellion. I have spoken.”

The Bible speaks about the rebellion that shall be prevalent in the last days. 2 Timothy 3-1-5 says, “This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
3 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, note

4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.”

All those who are wise should save themselves from the fierce impending wrath of God. If God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah because of their sexually immoral life He will also destroy this world. This is the time to repent and follow Jesus Christ.

Warning from God about Pornography

Warning from God about Pornography

On the 26th of September 2018 the Spirit of the Most High God spoke to me in the early hours of the morning, exposing satanic operations in the internet. The Spirit of the Lord told me that all pornographic sites are monitored by demons. On how they operate the Lord revealed that whenever someone visits a pornographic site demons register that person’s name. They keep sending reminders to those whose names have been registered to visit the porn site. This is one of the powers behind pornography addiction.
Then I had a vision from God. I saw a human mouth with the two lips wide open. Ants covered the lips. The person could not close his mouth. He seemed helpless. The Holy Spirit explained to me that whenever someone watches pornography demons try to enslave the person. He said that the mouth that I saw represents those who have been enslaved by demons through pornography. They are helpless, without self control.
The Lord revealed to me that there are pornographic videos produced by people who are not humans but are demons who put on human forms. This type of pornography is very dangerous because they are purposely produced to enslave men and also to initiate as many that view them into the kingdom of darkness. Since sex makes two people to become one flesh, it creates some level of spiritual ground for them to possess those who view them with demons.
I heard the Lord saying, “Whoever views abominable forms of pornography like Sodomy shares in the sins of the wicked he views. If he derives pleasure from viewing it and lust after what he sees he becomes a part of the sexual act.”

The Lord also told me that those who are addicted to pornography and those who have viewed pornography and are having constant urge to view pornography should pray against the demons of pornography and also use the Blood of Jesus Christ to break any spiritual covenant that was created in course of using pornography.

Recently, I did some teachings on how to overcome sexual sins and addictions. These videos will help you to come out if you are addicted to pornography or have been enslaved by demons of pornography.

Warning from God: Ladies Who Display Their Undies Publicly Will not Enter Heaven

Warning from God: Ladies Who Display Their Undies Publicly Will not Enter Heaven

On the 30th of March 2019 I was counselling a young man on WhatsApp call. After a while I lost internet connection and I slept off. God gave me a dream. I saw a lady that was doing exercise. She sat down with her legs stretched forward. She was bending herself to enable her forehead to touch her knees. I was looking at her from behind. As she bent over, though she was wearing something, of which I do not know if it was a skirt, gown, trousers or shorts, I noticed that what wore shifted from her waist making her panties to be exposed. From personal assessment I know she did not expose her panties intentionally. I noticed that the outerwear was loose over her waist, hereby making it to shift down and to open. Even though her wear shifted to expose her undies she continued her exercise without adjusting what she was wearing, she just continued.

Here’s another message God gave me about women wearing tights.

Then I heard the voice of the LORD speaking to me. He said, “Any lady that dresses to expose her panties to spread immorality cannot enter my kingdom. You cannot use your body to spread immorality on earth and expect yourself to enter my kingdom. Anyone who does sports and uses panties publicly cannot enter my kingdom. If the (sport’s) standard of dressing is immoral then you must not join them. Those who set that standard are my enemies. They will face me on the Day of Judgement to give account. Therefore, don’t submit yourself to their immoral standard of dressing since you will not give account to them on the Judgement Day, but me. This warning is also for those who wear transparent, short, revealing or tight clothes that expose their undies. If your appearance causes people to lust and the lust sends them to Hell Fire, be rest assured that the Scripture cannot be broken; I have said, ‘It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come!’

Warning to those who get entertained by women wearing panties

The Lord also said to me, “My son tell those who are entertained by those who dress half naked or go completely naked that they are as guilty as those who spread such immorality. This is a command from me, those who disobey me shall answer on the Last Day.”

Female Sport Wears: Before and Now

Many females’ sports have been highly sexualised. It is not getting better at all. Many Christians no longer see anything wrong with men watching ladies wearing bikini doing sports.

Just take a look at the journey of the sexualisation of the dressing code of women in sports.

Women swimsuits journey from 1875 to 1927
Source: On Board
Women decently dressed while playing hockey in the 19th century
Source: Wisp Sports

Today the story is different, the worship of sex is almost taking over sportsand the world. Bikini has become the standard of dressing for some sports. God’s judgment is coming upon the children of disobedience.

Women dressed in Bikinis pose for a photographer on Sydney’s Bondi Beach September 26, 2007. 1010 bikini-clad women posed on Australia’s iconic beach on Wednesday, setting a Guinness world record for the largest swimsuit photo shoot.
Source: Life of Guangzhou